Michelle Suzanne Scott

Registered Social Services Worker




Michelle Suzanne Scott

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Self-Care is Not Selfish

Taking care of yourself is not being selfish or acting self-absorbed

You may have been taught to “be strong” and to put others’ needs first. To take care of yourself is not a selfish act, it’s treating yourself like you would a good friend.  Especially during bereavement, people need to concentrate on self care.  Please keep in mind:

  • Listen to your body. Take the time to cry, sleep, talk and reminisce.
  • Be kind to yourself by lowering your expectations. You don’t need to do everything at 100% capacity, get done what you are able to do.
  • Communicate to others what you need from them and how they can help and support you. Assert your right not to accept unhelpful messages and comments (people usually mean well).
  • Stay active – even if you walk up and down stairs or do stretching exercises in a chair.
  • Get enough sleep and try to eat healthy. Drink water. Visit your doctor or healthcare provider if you are having difficulty with nutrition/sleeping, or are feeling overwhelmed/hopeless over many days/weeks.


  1. Be kind to yourself.
  2. Ask for help/support when you need it.
  3. Trust yourself to heal and grow at your own pace.

Community and Online Resources:

Distress Centre Durham 905-430-2522, distresscentredurham.comVON Durham Hospice 905-240-2522, durhamhospice.orgBereaved Families Durham 905-579-4293, bfodurham.netHearth Place Cancer Support Centre 905-579-4833,


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