Taking care of yourself is not being selfish or acting self-absorbed
You may have been taught to “be strong” and to put others’ needs first. To take care of yourself is not a selfish act, it’s treating yourself like you would a good friend. Especially during bereavement, people need to concentrate on self care. Please keep in mind:
- Listen to your body. Take the time to cry, sleep, talk and reminisce.
- Be kind to yourself by lowering your expectations. You don’t need to do everything at 100% capacity, get done what you are able to do.
- Communicate to others what you need from them and how they can help and support you. Assert your right not to accept unhelpful messages and comments (people usually mean well).
- Stay active – even if you walk up and down stairs or do stretching exercises in a chair.
- Get enough sleep and try to eat healthy. Drink water. Visit your doctor or healthcare provider if you are having difficulty with nutrition/sleeping, or are feeling overwhelmed/hopeless over many days/weeks.
TOP THREE THINGS TO REMEMBER FOR SELF CARE:
- Be kind to yourself.
- Ask for help/support when you need it.
- Trust yourself to heal and grow at your own pace.
Community and Online Resources:
|Distress Centre Durham 905-430-2522, distresscentredurham.comVON Durham Hospice 905-240-2522, durhamhospice.orgBereaved Families Durham 905-579-4293, bfodurham.netHearth Place Cancer Support Centre 905-579-4833, hearthplace.org